#1025 Relationship Problem

M f-19

Ryt nwm 19 yrs old.,, 3-4 yrs back, when i ws in 11th cls ., a guy proposed me ,, obviously i rejected bcz m thodi alg typ ki ladki hun ,,, in relationships wagera m interest nai tha aur at dt tym m bht chotti b thi .., aur zyda studies ki taraf dhayan tha mera . Ek baar to mene mana krdiya lekin wo dubara dubara meri frnd ko bolta raha,, aur mein mana krti gyi ..
Then usne mje fb p msg kiya aur wahan to hamari bht ladai hoti ,,mene unne seedha seedha bola k dekho mje in sb mein sb m intrsrt ni hai to unne kaha k agr m ap k ghr marriage proposal bhejunga to ap kya kaheingi ,, aur mene kaha dt it will totally be on my parents ,, wo jo kaheinge ,, mera b wohi answr hoga . nd he said ok wo han hi kaheinge (in shaa Allah ) aur aese hi pta ni kb baat krte krte ham log frndz ban gye . Bt hamari frndshp ek limit tk thi ,, kyu k mein ladkun c zyda baat nai krti,, mein thoda reserve type girl hun.
Wo meri bht care krta they,,, aur “wo mjse bht pyar b krte hein” aesa un jnab ka kehna hai 😜 baki upar wala hi jane k kn sach bolta hai aur ye pyar kitna sach hai.
Sb bolte hein k pathar dil ho tumein kyu pyar nai hota kisi se ..,
Lekin Ab aage ye hua k mera ye pathar dil b pighal gya ptani kb aur mje b unse pyar hogya tha aur wo b intense wala .,, i hv an elder sista nd i share everything wid her nd i told eveything to her dt i began to love him nd ol. nd she said “dekho abi tum apni teen age mein ho to ye sb hota hai ,,, ye pyar nai bs attraction hai so better concentrate on ua studies ” i said ok di
Nd mene apne us frnd c baat krna kam krdi ,, aur fir wo bolne lga k mene apne ghr m sbko apke bare m btadiya hai ,, plz ab ap han bol do ,, mein apke liye kch banna chahta hun life m..,, aur fir apke. Ghr apna proposal bhejna chahta hun marriage k liye .
I told him k mere mom dad apke liye nai maaneinge kyu k ham dono alg hein .. The main problem here is k mje 70% lgta h k mere mom dad nai maneinge aur 30%lgta h k kya ptaa maan b jayein .,, agr wo apni life m hard work kreinge aur kch. Baneinge
He said ok i can do everything fr uh bs tum han bol do,.
At last mene han to nai boli bt mene unne btaya k han mje ap ache lgte ho bt m kbi relationship m nai reh skti ,, mein apne mom dad ko jooth Nai bol skti ,, mein kbi unne hurt nai krskti kyu k mere liye sbse zyda imp meri family hai jinne mje bachpan c pyar diya ..,,agr mein unko abi han bol dun ,, sb acha rahega bt d tying is if in future meri family nai manti to wo mje hi blame kreinge ., aur mein kbi kisi ko hurt ni krskti ,, isliye m kbi kisi c itna. Close hi ni hoti.
Ab ham as a frnd to baat krte hein .. Bt hamne phone p kbi baat ni ki ajtk .. Kbi mile b nai hein … Bs starting m tution m dkha tHa ek dusre ko,, aur ham baat b bht kam krte hein ab , kbi ek din m 2 msgs krliye nd oll ,, kyu k ham jb b baat krte hein to hamari ladai hoti haii kyu k hamara nature thoda alg h,, hamara culture b alg h,,. Religion to same h bt fir b society kahan jeene deti h ,😞😑
Ap log mje plz sugesstions dijiye k kya mera unse baat krna thk h ya m baat krna chorh dun aur sb apne Allah p chorh dun . kyu k mje nai pta k hamara kya hoga future mein bt ek baat to sch h k mene unse sacha pyar kiya hai .., bt mene kbi unko btaya nai k mein unse kitna pyar krti hun,, unki jagah koi ni le skta meri lyf m .,, bt unki bht c aadatein mje bht ajeeb lgti hein ,, ek to wo kch ladkiyun c bht ache c frankly baat krte hein .. I mean jese koi flirt krta hai wese typ.. Aur wo smoking krte hein jisse mje skht nafrat hai … Aur third k mein apne religion ko ache c follow krti hun .., nmaz pdti hun ,, bt wo mst hote hein jb mann kiya pdi jb nai kiya to nai pdi ,, bare m jb sochti is baat ko leke bht behas hoti hai hamari ,,, aur m bht roti b hun k kyu muje hua ye pyar ..,, bt last m whi sorry bolte hein aur rone lg jate hein k mein tumein hurt nai krna chahta.,,, unka gussa b bht hai,, koi ladka agr mera nam b leta h to wo usko marne p aa jate hein . aur wo apne future ko leke itna focussed b ni hein .. Thode mast typ hein … aur in sb waja c meri di ko b wo bilkul psnd ni hein 😞 aur meri di hamesha mera acha hi chahti hein .

Nd ryt now m apne future p hi focussed hun.. Ap log plz mere liye pray b krna k mein life m successful huache c pduun ,, aur apne Mom dad ko b proud feel kraun ,, 🙂 aur achi si sugesstion b dijiyega 😊.