Life without a mate is boring. Weather we talk about a mate of friendship or a mate in relationship. Life without sharing is just monotonous. It’s highly difficult to live a life without people whom you love and who love you. One could be naturally alone but at some point of life a highly adaptable cactus also needs water. Camels in desert can live without water, but hey we are humans, not camels! How long can you live alone is an endurance test but it’s highly impractical to live completely without It. Same is the tendency with humans! . We need people to share our thoughts,our experiences. We need someone who cares for us and we do the same for them. Just besides family, a mate is always a natural urge of a human being and It’s not completely wrong to depend on them.
But, sometimes relationships can seem like a lot of work until you sit back and realize just how much you’ve been given. A thriving, healthy relationship requires some give and take, and is absolutely within your reach if you and your partner are willing to do a bit of work. The problem is when you take the others contribution as granted and start calculating your inputs like a data hungry supercomputer.
If you and your partner are right for each other, all the work will definitely be worth it in the long run. Our relationships are very delicate. They are not a debit and credit ledger.These are the life bonds that we need to tie up in our life. One single knot and it could get interrupted. Relationships are like glass. They are very delicate. One must be careful with the relationships one has. And here, we are going to present five ways to maintain a healthy relationship being an individual. Let’s be short and precise.
Take responsibility for your own happiness.
You are not here to place the barter system of give and take. It’s a relationship. You have to be mature in it. Save yourself several hours of arguing by remembering this one rule: it’s not up to anyone else to make you happy. In a relationship your partner will try to please you and make you happy but in the end you are responsible for your happiness.
Make good on your words.
If you respect your relation, it will respect you. Simple as that. Follow through on your promises. When you say you’re going to do something, do it. Don’t say that you’ll cook dinner, or get a birthday present, and then blow it off or simply forget about it. Don’t create expectations that you cannot live up to. What this does, is systematically destroy trust. And relationships need trust in order to thrive.
Be honest and Forgiving
Honesty & Forgiveness is what holds a relationship together. Be honest about what you like about your relationship, what you hate and what annoys you. This is very important as it helps to build trust between you. Also if you show forgiveness they are more likely to forgive you. So it is a win win situation to forgive and forget.
Every relationship has disagreements and days when staying isn’t the easiest choice. But what makes a relationship healthy is choosing to resolve those problems and pushing through the hard days, instead of just letting issues and resentment fester. Working through your problems will help you be a much positive person. Review your expectations. Do you see your partner as a person, with both winning qualities and flaws, or as someone you expect to be perfect?
If your expectations are so astronomical that no one could live up to them 100% of the time, you’re setting up your relationship for failure. Learn to embrace their differences. You can learn a lot from them. Accept that conflict happens. If you expect to be in a longterm relationship, you’re bound to have the occasional disagreement. Remember that one argument isn’t the end of everything, and there’s no person on earth that you’d agree with all the time. Always ask yourself whether you’re better off in the relationship than out of it.
Admit your mistakes.
If you know you’ve done something to hurt your partner, intentionally or not, own up to it. Be humble and swallow your ego to apologize sincerely, without making excuses or justifications like “I’m sorry you made me angry.” you have to be responsible for your actions and cannot make anyone else feel guilty for what you have done or didn’t do. Commit to changing your behavior. If you notice yourself apologizing for the same mistake over and over, step it up a level. But admit it. It doesn’t matter you are male or a female. What matters is you want your relationship to work for you.
Sollve your disputes by your own self rather than others. People don’t take your situation like the way you do. They can’t see the same versions as we see. So give you partner the right amount of space. Freedom is very important. Everyone needs their own privacy and some freedom, so don’t constantly watch or try to control everything he/she does.
Everyone hates to be watched, stifled and controlled. Do not ever spy on him/her (reading his/her phone, stalking him/her on social networks, following him/her around). If he/she is cheating on you, you will find out. These things cannot be kept secret for very long. But if you spy on him/her and he/she is innocent, you will lose his trust and respect forever.
Be happy of the fact, that you are with someone who loves you. Many people don’t. Express gratitude and love for your partner for their presence. Off course he/she is the most important person with whom you share your own problems and fears. Be respectful for each other. Respect each other’s emotions. Help each other. That will surely make your relation good with time.