7 Worst Things About Dating These Days
The act of dating has always been, and always will be, pretty terrible due to the nervousness and uncertainty before relationship. But there is something about dating in the era of Tinder, Bumble, and ghosting that makes it feel like, no matter how bad things were before, you definitely have it worse. In a recent Reddit thread, people discussed the modern dating norms they absolutely can’t stand and, if you’ve been on a dating app recently, chances are pretty good that you’ll agree with a lot of them.
Having a first date at someone’s house
Having the first date/initial meeting be cuddling or meeting up at someone’s place. Like…no, meet me in public and don’t get upset about me not wanting to come over immediately after. I am entirely too anxious to be alone in private with a stranger. Especially having them know where I live so soon after meeting.”
No dates, once you’re offially dating
I hate that, at least in my experience, as soon as you’re officially seeing someone formal dates stop. Unless I planned it, we didn’t go out. No more putting on something nice, no more movies, no more dinner for two. Just watching something on Netflix and then bed. No romance, no effort. It made me feel like I’m nothing.”
The “cool girl” hype
I hate that nowadays women are pressured to be the ‘cool girl’ who doesn’t expect commitment, exclusivity, or decent communication lest she be labeled ‘crazy’ or ‘clingy.’ I mean why does a girl cannot be whatever she wants? Why does she have to be cool with non- commitment relations. It’s her choice. If you are a coward, stay away.
Building relationships through texts
I hate how text-reliant it has become. I’m a huge introvert, and even online conversations wear me out a lot. I’d rather be asked out often than having endless text conversations every single waking moment. When I’m with the person, I’m with the person. If I’m doing my own thing, I’m doing my own thing. I get why it happens, but, like, the effort put into a meaningful conversation via text cannot be compared to the effort of actually meeting up to have those conversations in person.
Dealing with multiple “stages” before relationship
All the weird stages before ‘in a relationship’ are so confusing to me. There’s ‘talking’ and then ‘seeing each other’ and then ‘dating non-exclusively’ and then ‘exclusive but not actually in an official relationship’ and then, finally, if you’re lucky, ‘in a full-blown relationship.’
Starting with a friends with benefits code
I don’t like the idea of starting a relationship as ‘friends with benefits,’ which seems to be more and more common. There’s almost this expectation that you’re down to ‘keep things casual’ for like, six months, before you get any sort of commitment.
Got ghosted after being romantically involved with a guy for three years. Blocked and ignored off everything. I’m doing fine, I’ve started to develop feelings for someone else…amazing job, money, traveling the world but I honestly feel like a part of my soul has died. The last thing I sent to him was a funny comment that someone said to me. Guess he didn’t find it funny.” Ghosting. After seeing it happen to someone I knew, it’s horrible and cowardly. If you don’t like someone just tell them. Disappearing forever is awful and no one deserves that! Treat others the way you wanna be treated, that’s all.”
Relying on social media to prove you’re “official”
If you don’t post a selfie on Instagram, are you even dating? Posting mandatory social media posts with your special one, to prove that you are the best couple ever is the new trend. Superficial relationship goals are really the worst.
We all wish that love turns as pure and true as it used to be in 80s or 90s. What do you think?