Bollywood actor Shahid Kapoor, known for his roles in films like Kabir Singh and Jab We Met, recently opened up about his past relationships and the valuable lessons he has learned from heartbreak. In a candid conversation with Raj Shamani on his YouTube channel, the actor spoke about the emotional rollercoaster he experienced in his early relationships, and how they shaped him as a person.

Kapoor, who was relatively new to the industry when he publicly acknowledged his relationship with actress Kareena Kapoor, chose to keep his personal life under wraps after their breakup. Though there were rumours about his involvement with other actresses over the years, Shahid never confirmed them, opting to remain private until his marriage to Mira Rajput in 2015.

 

In the interview, Shahid reflected on the impact of heartbreaks, admitting that they changed him in significant ways. “All of them changed me in some way,” he shared. He described how difficult it can be when one feels rejected by someone they deeply love. “Sometimes you love someone so much that when they reject you, you chase them to a degree that you start losing your dignity,” he said. “You sacrifice your dignity and you don’t even realise that you have lost your self-respect in the process, and that realization happens much later.”

Shahid also highlighted how heartbreaks force individuals to reassess who they want to become. “These are the moments when you decide who you want to become, and if it hasn’t helped you decide, then you have wasted the opportunity,” he added.

The actor went on to explain what he has learned from his past experiences. According to Shahid, a key lesson is understanding what kind of partner one can tolerate. “Falling in love with someone is different, but you need to understand if they are bringing the best or worst out of you,” he said. “Eventually, you have to live with yourself.”

Shahid emphasized that love should not be about selfish needs. “What I have learned from love is that one should not be needy of something from the other person. That’s a very selfish reason to want to find love,” he explained. “We all want that love and attention, but eventually, you should be able to give in a relationship. You should be able to be the giver.”

He further elaborated on how relationships can spiral when one partner starts demanding things, creating pressure. “You think it’s your right, but if it was your right, you would have gotten it,” he concluded, offering a valuable perspective on the dynamics of love and relationships.