If the dirty questions you’re asking your boo don’t go beyond “Babe, when was the last time you showered?”. You are missing a lot in your sexual life.
“Asking your partner questions can tell you more about your partner and their desires,” states Alexandra Fine, CEO and co-founder of Dame Products. “But it can also tell you about your own as well.”
How’s that? Well, odds are that far more than a quick answer. These questions are going to lead to some pretty darn intimate conversations. In fact, according to Fine, asking questions like this could help foster an environment of intimate sharing within your relationship.
To get turned on?
Here, what you question is going to vary. It depends on whether you and your partner are already intimately, physically, or emotionally connected, and whether you want to up the ante. Or, if you’re not but want to be,.
Ask:
- How would you feel about taking a shower together and seeing where it goes?
- I’d love to kiss you and see if it leads to more than that. How does that sound to you?
- What can I do to help you de-stress right now?
- I read an article about tantric sex. How would you feel if I read you a paragraph?
For a New partner
You want to learn what they’re looking for sexually earlier in the relationship, because if they’re into something that’s a hard no for you, it’s better to find out sooner rather than later.
Ask:
- What time of day do you most enjoy having sex?
- Where is your favorite place to have sex?
- What are your hard no’s?
- What kind of music do you enjoy getting down to?
For a long-term partner
Perhaps your sexual life has become a little “meh” after the honeymoon period has passed and the routine details have taken center stage.
You can replace the disinterested groans with moans by asking these questions:
- What are two sex positions that we haven’t tried in a while that you’d like to bring back into rotation?
- What is your favorite sexual memory of us?
- If you could only use your hands on me, what would you do?
- If I could only use my mouth on you, where would you want me to taste you?
- If you could dress me in anything, what would it be? Nothing is off-limits!
- How does it feel for you to orgasm?
- If I were with you right now, what would you do with me?