Getting over someone is not an easy task. After all those memories and promises, separation is hard. But just like some things are not meant to happen, some people are not meant to be together. Breakups can surely be tough, no matter how much time you have spent with someone, one can never be comfortable with the ‘separation’ part. Some breakups are quick and some are long and painful.
But the question remains what should we do next? When you can’t stop thinking about that one person who broke your heart, how do you actually move on?
All your questions will be answered in this post. We are here with effective ways to get over a breakup. Sure, it’s not going to be easy, however, with genuine efforts, you can be happy again. So let’s get started.
CRY as much as you can and as much as you want!
This may sound weird, however, this is the best start. Sometimes, crying is one of the parts of the healing process. It’s a human response to sorrow and frustration. Research has found that in addition to being self-soothing, shedding emotional tears releases oxytocin and endorphins. When people cry in response to stress, their tears contain a number of stress hormones and other chemicals. Researchers believe that crying could reduce the levels of these chemicals in the body, which could, in turn, reduce stress.
Dive into SELF CARE
Don’t stick to that binge eating and drinking phrase for too long. It’s very easy to eat and drink unhealthy and taking excessive sleep, however, you need to keep in mind that those extra kilos you put in this phase won’t go away that easy. Breakups and the week afterward are intensely stressful which can have real effects on your body. So, providing your body and mind with the necessary tools they need to combat this stress can go a long way in your healing process. Take plenty of sleep, start exercising, start eating well and most importantly, go outside and move.
CONNECT with people
What people do wrong is that they tend to isolate themselves from the rest of the world. Many studies show that loneliness increases stress level and sadness. We know it is hard to go out and pretend that everything is fine, however, a little effort is a mandatory step in order to get over someone. You can’t expect your heart to feel good and normal while lying in your bed all day long. So, get up and move!
EMBRACE Alone Time
Just because it’s important to go out and connect with people doesn’t mean that you are not allowed to spend some alone time, just with yourself. Truth be told, it is one of the most important steps in the healing process. Embrace that time, do stuff that you love and enjoy. Put on a face pack, get a nice manicure at home, do things that will make you look and feel good. There’s nothing better than pampering yourself with little things.
ACCEPT the Reality
Take a diary or a paper and a pen, note down how you feel, why you two broke up, why you both can’t be together and then read that thing everyday religiously. Writing your heart out not only makes you feel good, but it’s also a necessary step in order to move on. In short, accept reality.
STOP STALKING Your Ex
Take a break from social media for a while, don’t open Instagram or facebook or twitter. Most importantly, don’t stalk your ex. Social media, most of the times, urges us to feel bad about ourselves. Seeing everybody around happy and chilling will make you overthink everything. Ask yourself, do you want that?
Follow these points and give yourself a chance to be happy again.