By Abha Makkar
Before beginning with the healing, one should always know what and how it feels to be with a Narcissist. Some of the signs are:
- The more you need a Narcissist, the less likely they will be there for you.
- The more you want or expect them to do, the less they will do and the more harm they’ll cause.
- The less you want to do with them, the more likely they are to bother you and seek attention.
- The more empowered and free you become, the harder they’ll try to tear you down by control and destroy your life.
- A narcissist never wants a target to be happy. They want them to be miserable so they can be happier.
Something that needs to be mentioned here is that whenever you trigger such emotions in real life, there is something wrong. One needs to accept the fact of what you’re dealing with and have to heal from that. A narcissist always tries to prey on the ones who have all the good qualities like empathy, courage, kindness, etc. It is their self-esteem that is so low that they satisfy their needs from you. They bolstered their fragile belief system and created the identity they wished they had. All need to understand that overcoming such relationships isn’t happening overnight. It’s more of a marathon rather than a sprint.
- Acknowledge the behavior: One always needs to recognize that the things going on are the actions done by a narcissistic person.
- Realize the end: One needs to realize that no matter how much love or affection one has for such a person, there should be an end to this for the betterment of both. One should know the fact that things need to be ended at this point
- Cry out loud: After suffering and putting an end to those things, one should connect to their loved ones like family and friends. Sharing and grieving for the experience will set them free.
- Break the patterns: Try not to repeat all the actions that weren’t healthy at first. Try to recognize the red flags beforehand and try to avoid them.
- Gain yourself back: Regain all the confidence, faith, and security that needs to be there for a healthy self-relationship. “Only when your cup is filled, you can pour in another cup”.