We go through a plethora of emotions. Shaming is one emotion we are introduced to as a fetus and when as babies we start touching our private parts. As soon as the baby starts running without any clothes. The first thing an elder would say is “Shame Shame”. That’s where it starts. Shaming begins from an early age. We are made to feel ashamed of our body We are made to feel ashamed of our feelings We are made to feel ashamed of every act We are made to feel ashamed of every Mistake. We as ladies are made to also feel ashamed of giving birth to a girl
We are also being ashamed of not having a baby! So on and so forth… Now as a child when we are made to feel ashamed, we will keep shaming others.
How can we consciously make sure not to instill shaming!
1. Stop using the word Shame Shame! Every time you want to tell a baby or someone shame. Take a pause and ask yourself what do you want to convey? How would it make you feel? How did it make you feel when someone said this to you? Consciously put a STOP.
- Work on your self worthPeople who shame others and put others down need help. They are emotionally broken souls who need to work on their self-worth. As kids when parents / elders keep putting us down . We stop loving ourselves . We stop respecting ourselves . And in turn we stop loving and respecting others. Time to value yourself and others.
By: Heena S Khera, A former media person , banker .