All of us at some point of time in life feel unloved by the people dear to us. We justify our beliefs by their action or rather the lack of them. We all want to be loved but maybe it’s getting lost in translation. Similar to how a person speaking in french cannot decipher what has been said in the English language, you may visit English with Lucy to learn, we all speak different love languages and maybe the people around us are expressing love just not the way you want them to.
In order to strengthen your relationship, it’s important to know your love language so you are better able to communicate your needs and at the same time learn what your partner requires to feel loved. There are 5 different ways to express love which includes: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, receiving gifts and physical touch. To help you understand better we’ll dive deeper into the five different love languages.
Words of Affirmation: As the title suggests it means just that, words of affirmation is a love language where affection is expressed through affirmative words either spoken or written. People with this love language value verbal acknowledgement which includes saying ‘I love you’ frequently and giving compliments, showing encouragement and affection.
Quality Time: In this love language, the person craves undivided attention from their partners. They feel most adored knowing their partner wants to spend time with them. This means putting away your cellphone and other distractions, holding eye contact and actively listening. People with this love language have a strong desire to connect with their partners either through deep conversations or recreational activities.
Acts of Service: Here is where we bust the nagging wife trope. In acts of service, people appreciate when their partner makes their lives easier either by helping in chores or doing something nice for them. For example, it can mean cooking a meal for them, taking up some of their chores, running errands, etc. Not following through on your promise can make the person feel unappreciated.
Receiving Gifts: Gifts is as straightforward as it can get. People feel loved and appreciated when they receive gifts from their loved ones. It has little to do with the monetary value of the present, as it’s more symbolic. But don’t just do it for the sake of it. A thoughtless gift is far worse than no gift at all. You need to reflect and carefully cater to your partner’s needs.
Physical Touch: Apart from sex those with their primary love language as physical touch like it when their partner uses physical signs of affection like hugging, kissing, cuddling, etc. Even something as small as holding hands can make your partner feel loved and appreciated. In this love language, people crave to be close to their loved ones.
Though love languages help to communicate better, one should note that we can speak multiple love languages at the same and at different levels.
